Sometimes sex is not quite what you expect. It is a misconception that sex is always natural and spontaneous. A quarter of the population sometimes encounter a problem with their sexuality.
You may ask yourself whether what you or your partner do is normal.
You do not like it or it hurts ... and ultimately sex becomes more of a nuisance than anything enjoyable. You feel abnormal, incompetent.
A sexual problem often starts small but can become a real bone of contention in a relationship.
Sex therapy: for whom?
For most people, talking about sex is not easy. There is a sense of shame, insecurity ... But everything that has to do with sex can be discussed with a sexologist and discussed without fear.
You can go and consult with a sex therapist if you have questions about sex, if you have sexual problems that scare you from striking up a(nother) relationship, or if your sexual problems continue to weigh on your own well-being and / or your relationship negatively.
Sex therapy: "What will others think?"
Like any other therapist, the sexologist is bound by a duty of confidentiality. So if you do not tell anyone, no one will ever know.
Sex therapy: which problems can be discussed?
There are numerous potential problems that may arise in sexual life. Not every therapist can solve all problems. Knowledge and experience are needed to help people in their quest.
You can contact me for the following problems, both for women, men and couples:
- Providing information
- Problems with
- pain during or after intercourse
- Penetration: painful, difficult, impossible
- sexual desire: diminished, different, aversion, excessive
- sexual arousal: erectile dysfunction, insufficiently wet
- Orgasm: too quick, difficult, or impossible
- sexual dissatisfaction
I cannot help you for the following problems,: gender issues, paraphilia (such as exhibitionism, fetishism, sexual sadism or masochism ...) and pedophilia.
Sex therapy: what is a consultation like?
The first consultations are exploratory. In addition to the discussion of the problem you will be asked to specify what you hope to achieve. "Healing", "everything back to normal" does not mean the same thing for everyone.
In some cases, a physical examination will be necessary. Sometimes it will be recommended to consult with a specialist to rule out any possible underlying medical issues (dermatological, cardiological, neurological, ...).
Usually a session consists of three parts:
- Providing targeted information
- Specifying specific exercises to be done at home
- Discussing the home exercises
A consultation lasts 45 minutes.
Sex therapy is most likely to succeed if it meets certain conditions. The first and most important condition is that you start the therapy for yourself and not just for your partner. Also important is that you are curious and that you see the therapy as a discovery.
The doctor is member of
- VVS: Vlaamse Vereniging voor Seksuologie
- SSUB: Société des Sexologues Universitairs de Belgique
- ISSM: International Society for Sexual Medicine
- ESSM: European Society for Sexual Medicine